Navigating Good Days Vs Bad Days

Good Days vs Bad Days

How do we move through them?

That's the million dollar question, right?

Our thoughts tend to reflect our mental and emotional state. If you are feeling guilty, shame or lack of energy...your thoughts will tend to be the visual manifestation in your head.  To put it more bluntly; when you feel like shit you think like shit. When you feel amazing, you think better.

The easy solution to this is to prioritize food, exercise and habits that will allow you to think and feel amazing. This will lead to bigger and better habits to support a better lifestyle. 

But what about those moments you do find yourself feeling less than? Moments your thoughts spiral into a less than great place. From this place, taking the "right" actions may seem like too big a hurdle. Then what?

From my experience it is important to simply do one thing.

Don't take your thoughts too seriously.

If your thoughts are a reflection of how you feel and how you feel is fleeing, then don't put so much emphasis on your lower vibe feelings.

See them, feel them, acknowledge them and then simply let them go.

Yes, thats it. Don't pay them anymore attention than they deserve.

Just as we all have moments of ecstacy and joy, we will too have moments of suffering, doubt and even sadness.

From my experience, simply letting them BE what they are without judgment is the key to not letting the "bad" moments or days turn into anything more.

As humans we are meaning making machines. Everything has to mean something.

By not attaching to them we can actually feel them, acknowledge them and then say goodbye to them in a moments time.

The book Letting Go by Dr. David Hawkins as well as the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle break this idea down beautifully.

When we invite them in, argue with them, judge them, and try to make them into something they are not? This is when they become problematic.

The non-acceptance of what is

This is what drives our pain and creates bad days.

Transmute this lower energy into something better, something greater.

Go for a walk. Get in a workout. Journal. Sing. Dance. Play. All of these things move that energy that is keeping us stuck or unhappy.

Also, our lower energy, thoughts, feelings, attitude are often telling us where we are putting importance or what we value.

For those reasons they can be very telling as to where the "fix" is.

For example, if you are in a good groove with exercise and food. You've lost weight and feel great.

You then have a weekend where you overindulge in food and alcohol.

A "bad" day ensues.

You feel sick and tired for 3 days after.

Exercise doesn't feel great, you've lost a little bit of an edge.

This is feedback.

There is not sense in dwelling on this. You now know (or remember) what it feels and looks like to align with the opposite of what you want (even if you created it.)

You get to choose again going forward.

Do I make those choices again? (overeat and alcohol)

Or do I make the ones that align with what I want? (proper portions and quality of food)

For this reason so called "bad" days are often our biggest teachers.

We can't know love without hate

We can't know success without failure

We can't know fit and healthy without fat and sluggish

If you are worthy of one you often go through the other first.

Expect and be ok with that. It IS part of the process, and it serves no use in trying to avoid it.

The baby stumbles a lot before they walk.

But once they get it, they are off and never look back.

Give yourself a little bit of that same grace.

Summary:

They key with dealing with good days vs bad days hinges on our perception of what bad is.

There are just days.

What can we learn from this day? and how can we iterate so that tomorrow feels more aligned?

Things to ponder next time you're in a funk.

Until next week